Love often brings many troubles. We all hope to be universally loved, but things rarely go as planned. How can you become the woman who makes a man's heart flutter? To become a top-tier woman, the perfect goddess in a man's eyes, here are eleven standards to help you achieve a glamorous transformation.
1. First and foremost, as a good woman, you need to be somewhat attractive. At the very least, you need to be attractive enough that a man would want to take you out in public. You're generally quite attractive when you're young. The key is that after thirty, you can't afford to age or gain weight. No matter how busy or tired you are, never forget to take care of yourself. Otherwise, when a man sees the first wrinkle around your eyes, the first gray hair on your head, and the extra weight around your waist, the look of astonishment on his face will be like a knife to your heart. But you must never compare yourself to a man. A man's wrinkles and gray hair are a sign of elegance and experience. Even a slightly protruding belly is a symbol of a happy life.
2. You need a job that isn't too busy but is respectable. It shouldn't be too busy because your job can't be an excuse for not having time for housework. It should be respectable because a wife's job is one of the important criteria men use when choosing a wife. Of course, you can also choose to be a housewife. When men are young, especially when they don't have much money, they often swear they'll support you for life. But when you're older and past your prime, which is when men are more successful, he'll mind your disconnect from society and the lack of common ground with you. And you'll be at his mercy, turning a blind eye to his extramarital affairs because you've already lost the ability to live independently.
3. You need to know when to act cute and innocent. Ask him for help with things that aren't too difficult or troublesome, and let him solve them for you in a few words. Then, throw yourself into his arms and adore him. Don't think you're too old to do it. Men, from young to old, are most susceptible to this. Or you can just wait for a younger girl to take your place.
4. You need to be independent, strong, and capable of handling things on your own. Of course, you can't always play the submissive role, and you shouldn't bother him with things that are difficult for him too. That will make him feel incompetent, and he'll become angry and resentful. Therefore, you need to be a supportive partner, sharing his burdens and solving his problems. You need to be able to talk to him about life and ideals, and more importantly, when he encounters bottlenecks at work and needs to make choices, you need to remain calm, help him analyze the situation, and assist him in making decisions.
5. You need to be reluctant to part with him, but not clingy. Whether he's going on a business trip or cheating, you must make him feel that you can't live without him, but you must know when to stop. Don't whine or be dramatic; going too far will put pressure on him and make him feel restricted. It might even fuel his desire to be single again. He can do it, but can you?
6. You will be responsible for managing, but not controlling, all household affairs. Regardless of how busy the man is at work or how much he earns, you will be the primary person in charge of everything. He is the head of the household, and of course, the head of the household should have the final say, but in reality, it's you who executes the decisions. If he says he wants to buy a house, you'll be out looking for properties all over the world, regardless of the weather, even if his requirements are low—just that it will appreciate in value. If he says he wants to decorate in a certain style, you'll be finding all sorts of designers and various plans for him to decide.
7. You need to be a financial expert. Keeping your money in the bank is just a waste of its value. You need to invest and manage your finances. But men are so busy, they don't have the time. You need to start learning to read all sorts of complex charts and reports, and find the safest and most comprehensive investment solutions.
8. If you're a culinary expert, you should have a few signature dishes. As the saying goes, the way to a man's heart is through his stomach. Besides, if his friends or family come over, you should definitely cook for them yourself. Eating out is too embarrassing and shows a lack of sincerity.
9. You need to be an education expert. Having a child naturally brings significant responsibility. Men leave early and come home late; they might hold the child in their arms for half an hour, and that's about it. Everything else—care, daycare, school, tutoring—falls on your shoulders.
10. You need to know how to respect men. This is the root of many conflicts and the point that men care about most. You should know that a woman's concept of respect is completely different from a man's. Every man is different, and you'll have to learn this gradually through life experiences. Find out where the red lines are, and once you've crossed them, don't cross them again.
11. This is also the most important point. It may seem that a man's biggest contribution is making money, but you can't fall in love with his money, otherwise no man will want to marry you. Even if he is down on his luck and loses his job, you must stay by his side and be his strong support, encouraging him to get back on his feet. At the same time, you must do the same things as before from point 1 to 9. You can't do better, or he will feel that you pity him; you can't do worse, or you will look down on him.
