The first force: Desire
Experts believe that desire is not the same as love. Desire is governed by chemicals secreted in the brain, which is simple and straightforward. However, engaging in sexual activity solely for sexual gratification is also dangerous because it leads to elevated levels of oxytocin and vasopressin in the body, which can harm health. Moreover, these chemicals can create a strong sense of dependence, which can be disastrous if the partner is not suitable.
The second force: infatuation
Romantic love involves different chemical substances than the first force. Experts believe that romantic love produces a chemical called dopamine, which causes excessive infatuation with a sexual partner. From an evolutionary perspective, this natural infatuation motivates male and female animals to stay together and share the female's gestation period. Surveys show that people in the infatuation phase spend over 90% of their time thinking about their partner.
Experts point out that romantic love between couples can gradually fade over time, possibly for two reasons: first, the nerve endings in the brain may become desensitized due to prolonged high levels of stimulation; second, the levels of brain chemicals may gradually decrease. Regardless of the cause, the initial passion usually cools down after two to three years.
The third force: adhesion
As the initial infatuation fades, the third stage, the clinging phase, begins. At this time, couples feel calm and secure. It is this very strength that allows a couple to grow old together. Of course, the challenge in life is finding someone to share all of this with.
