I. Indifference
When your man's heart changes, his first sign will definitely be indifference. Indifference towards you, indifference towards your friends, indifference towards everything around you. Even if you work late, he won't call to check on you, let alone pick you up from your office. In short, when you hope he will care about you, you will suddenly find that he has disappeared.
II. Playing dumb
Actually, it's easy to be indifferent; the first key is to learn to play dumb. For example, even if he knows you're tired after get off work, he'll pretend not to see it; even if he's aware of your doubts, he'll pretend to be innocent.
It is often said that men are like little boys who never grow up, especially when it comes to playing dumb; they have an absolute natural talent for it.
III. Busy
Have you noticed that, suddenly, starting one day, your man becomes unusually busy? Today he's working overtime, tomorrow he's socializing, and even the day after is filled with meetings and training sessions. You realize that the time that once belonged to you has been erased from his calendar by his busy schedule. Whether he's truly busy or not doesn't matter; what matters is that he's no longer busy revolving around you.
IV. Drowsiness
You used to feel so sorry for him because he always got so little rest; but now you're starting to wonder why all he wants to do when he gets home is sleep?
While you're busy with housework, he's already in bed; when you want to chat with him, he tells you he wants to sleep. For him, after his heart has strayed, home is just a place to sleep.
V. Silence
Some men are naturally bad at hiding their feelings. When his heart no longer belongs to you, any words you exchange become superfluous to him.
Your nagging, in particular, irritates him, causing him to fall silent. Don't doubt it; when he starts to get impatient with your nagging, when he begins to be silent towards you, his heart is no longer with you.
VI. Forget
When a man loves you, his memory is excellent; he'll remember every little anniversary you share. However, when your man's heart changes, his memory will gradually decline.
Those numbers that were once etched in his life began to slowly fade away. Even if he remembered certain important dates, he would rather choose to forget them.
7. Selfishness
Love is great; love can encompass everything. Therefore, when love exists between two people, all the possibilities of happiness arise.
However, when love fades, when your man no longer loves you, all tolerance and forgiveness will vanish without a trace. He will forget your rights for his own benefit, and he will strive to do everything just to satisfy his selfishness.
8. Anger
He used to be someone who wasn't easily angered. Even if you made a big mistake, he would pat your head tenderly and call you a little rascal.
But once his heart changes, even the slightest mistake you make will become a reason for his fury, even if the rice is cooked a little undercooked. For you, nothing can stop him from getting angry.
9. Heartless
When a man's heart has strayed beyond redemption, ruthlessness becomes his only expression. Otherwise, what other expressions do you expect him to show?
In truth, when a man becomes ruthless, the degree is absolutely no less than Li Mochou's hatred for the world. It's just that his ruthlessness isn't directed at anyone else, but only at you.
10. Unfamiliar
After love fades, what will be left between you? Nothing but estrangement. Don't expect to be friends anymore. Once a man's heart changes, he will completely forget the good things you did for him, the happiness and smiles you shared.
Having discussed the signs of a man's infidelity, let's talk about extramarital affairs within marriage. In this era, marital fidelity has plummeted, and extramarital affairs have become a ubiquitous and popular topic. So, how do men view their own "cheating" behavior? Let's hear the true thoughts of men who have extramarital affairs.
Betrayal is infidelity in marriage and love, harming both parties, especially women who suffer irreparable trauma. When a man has a mistress and enjoys the thrill and pleasure of infidelity, has he considered the responsibility and harm he inflicts on his partner and the relationship? While women condemn cheating men as heartless, they might consider listening to men's perspectives on betrayal.
Most men rarely express guilt or regret about having extramarital affairs.
“I’ve been married for 35 years. I don’t want any changes—but our sex life could be improved. By today’s standards, we’re doing quite well. I’ve had a few extramarital affairs, which I kept from my wife. I understand there’s no bad impact and I know there are some good outcomes—each experience teaches me something ‘new’ that I can apply in my family.”
“I married for love, a stable sex life, and companionship. My relationship with my wife is quite good, but I like to try new things. I don’t like monogamy; it’s too restrictive and one-sided. The only impact of an extramarital affair on me is the sadness of separation; it has never affected my marriage because I would never be foolish enough to tell my wife.”
“I’ve been married for nearly 20 years. As time went by, life became more and more fulfilling. I had an extramarital affair, which I kept from my wife. I fell head over heels in love with the first girl without any scruples. This experience taught me what the consequences would be if I didn’t control my emotions with my mind, and I’ve been different ever since. I don’t know what impact this affair will have on my marriage. I’ve never thought about how my relationship with my wife and my relationship with this girl are related.”
Most men said that extramarital affairs had a positive impact on them.
"I did have an extramarital affair during my first marriage. My wife was unaware of it. It had a great impact on me, but no impact on the marriage."
“I have been involved in extramarital affairs for 20 years. Many were casual affairs, while others were long-term relationships that lasted for 3 to 4 years. My wife doesn’t know that I currently have two affairs, which is good for me.”
Some people say that extramarital affairs are good because they lead to self-improvement.
“That would be a wonderful experience and it would elevate me.” “My affair was unknown to my wife and had a very positive impact on me—it was a wonderful change and it boosted my self-esteem because I felt attractive.”
“I had extramarital affairs. They pulled me out of a state of depression that was almost self-destructive. They did not affect my marriage.”
“I didn’t live with my wife for two years and had an affair, which I enjoyed. It made me feel sexy and had a great image. A few years later, when I told my wife about it, she thought my honesty was malicious and said I shouldn’t have told her. But I really don’t think the affair had a significant impact on our relationship or marriage.”
A very small number of people expressed guilt.
“I love my marriage. I have had extramarital affairs, but it rarely happens. Extramarital sex always brings a lot of guilt and is unlikely to strengthen the marital relationship.”
“I knew the affair would be suspected, but it couldn’t be proven. I felt guilty, and mostly because I wanted to be honest with myself, so I ended the marriage. Anyway, our marriage was already in jeopardy before the affair even started.”
Judging from the examples above, setting aside the constraints of morality, reputation, and ethics, everyone subconsciously feels that they need a lover. However, any extramarital affair involves some degree of betrayal of the relationship and will hurt the other party. Therefore, we strongly advocate for fidelity in love and marriage.
