The charm of mature men
Many women are drawn to mature men, and they justify their attraction by saying: an older man will strive to prove himself. He knows his own worth and understands why you chose him. He provides a sense of security and won't constantly monitor or try to control you. Because he understands what his ex-girlfriends might be jealous of, he will try his best to avoid anything that might make you jealous.
1. He is a person with a sound personality.
They are all highly educated, modern women, and we naturally hope that our partners can keep pace with us intellectually. "Behind every successful man is a great woman." We need a strong man, a successful man with rich life experience, and most importantly, he must be mentally sound.
2. He knows how to make women enjoy sex.
When it comes to "sex," I prefer to think of myself as a student. Extensive sexual experience doesn't mean memorizing every diagram and explanation in the Kama Sutra. Sex requires time, practice, and relevant knowledge; a man who understands sex is necessarily adept at the techniques of sexual life.
3. It won't make you jealous.
An older man will strive to prove himself. He knows his own worth and understands why you chose him. He provides enough security; he won't constantly monitor you or try to control you. Because he knows exactly what his ex-girlfriends would be jealous of, he will try his best to avoid anything that might make you jealous.
4. With an older man, you can act like a child without any inhibitions.
Whenever my fiancé, who is ten years older than me, says to me, "My goodness, you're acting like a child!" I always playfully make a face at him and say, "I am your little girl, you should pamper me." Then I pout childishly and wink at him, and every time he is helpless and gives me a kiss with a smile. This trick never fails.
5. Everything he did was just right.
He won't forget your birthday. In the morning, given the choice between sex and breakfast by the bed, he knows you prefer the latter. When you're down, he'll comfort you with the most appropriate words; when you're angry, he knows how to talk to you.
6. He has many stories to tell you
Older men have a wealth of life experience, so naturally they have many fascinating stories to share. You could listen for days and nights and still not hear them all. This quality makes them the perfect choice for family gatherings or dinners with friends. Because wherever they go, they'll be the center of attention.
7. He is very willing to have a marriage.
Unless you're incredibly "lucky" enough to meet a man like Pete Penn or George Clooney, you're in for a fantastic opportunity. Unless he's one of those die-hard singles mentioned above, the reason these men are single is simply because they're waiting for their dream girl.
8. His friends are all around his age.
The women around him are either married with children or completely uncompetitive compared to you. His male friends are all married too, so you don't have much to worry about. But there is one headache: you'll have to attend a lot of kids' parties and family gatherings, but you'll also enjoy lavish meals as a result.
The downsides of being with an older man
Every advantage has its disadvantages. What is maturity? Maturity is the loss of many youthful sentiments and the absence of simple, pure thinking. Maturity is about integration and adaptation. What a man needs is not maturity, but wisdom. Many people are mature, but few are wise. A man should be mature, but maturity is not about being overly mature, nor is it about being worldly, calculating, or cynical. Below, we'll discuss five major drawbacks of being a mature man in the traditional sense.
1. Lack of romance
It could be said that maturity is the enemy of love. In love, excessive maturity is unnecessary. Maturity allows love to skip many steps and diminishes its romance. Love is an experience, a journey of exploration, savoring the bittersweetness of life. It's like a thought-provoking film; knowing the ending too early renders it meaningless.
II. Habitually telling white lies
Of course, maturity doesn't mean dishonesty or lying. However, some white lies do stem from maturity and are even admired. But regardless of whether they are well-intentioned or malicious, a lie is still a lie. Well-intentioned or malicious lies are merely a matter of motive. Maturity implies that such lies objectively exist between people, and well-intentioned or malicious lies are simply driven by self-interest.
Third, love that is too realistic.
Mature people are often very practical, and they see reality very clearly. Therefore, they don't care much about the romance that is optional in marriage and love; they focus more on the practical meaning. Thus, the pursuit of material things is paramount in their view. Consequently, they may miss out on many of the most primal and ordinary romantic gestures in love.
IV. Lack of sufficient sense of security
Some say mature people make you feel safe, but I believe the opposite is true. How can you be sure that the shrewdness a mature person displays in dealing with others won't be used against you in the future, driven by some self-interest? Naïve young women must be aware of this: look for a wise man, not just a mature one. Don't forget, his maturity today could very well be his way of dealing with you.
Fifth, it brings worldly constraints.
Therefore, the maturity here is maturity in the traditional sense, meaning a clear understanding of the rules of everyday life. Consequently, he focuses on his immediate life, leading his marriage and love into a monotonous and mundane routine, making it impossible for him to cultivate a grander life or relationship, thus preventing himself and his family from escaping the constraints of worldly life.
Choosing any man comes with its pros and cons. The same applies to women who choose mature men. Mature men have their charm and advantages; for example, a man who is both psychologically and physiologically mature is better able to shoulder the responsibility for a woman's and a family's future. However, having a mature man also has its downsides; for instance, after years of experience in society, he may have lost the romance and innocence of his youth. Whether or not to be with a mature man is a decision only you can make.
