1. Delusional thinking of being cheated on
These kinds of women can't stand their boyfriends interacting with other women. Any slightly intimate behavior between them is interpreted as a crisis in the relationship. They often jump to conclusions, even fabricating them out of thin air, seizing on the slightest "clue" and relentlessly pursuing the matter. If the man vehemently denies it, it only comes across as a guilty excuse; fine, then just ignore it. What?! You actually admitted it!… Sorry, in front of a woman with a "cheating fetish," regardless of whether the man has done anything wrong, he'll ultimately only say "I was wrong."
Targeted solutions: Don't let your imagination run wild.
Undoubtedly, the female lead in idol dramas always experiences being cheated on. Despite her elegance, beauty, and nobility, she always seems to turn a corner and witness her beloved embracing another woman. At that moment, amidst the bustling crowds, the world feels like it has shrunk to just her, leaving her utterly alone and forlorn… It's truly pitiful! Even if you haven't experienced this scenario, you must feel incredibly lonely, if not terribly. Therefore, you're determined to create this scenario, and so you painstakingly search for clues…
But that's often how things happen. It's not that your love life is the problem, it's that your thinking is flawed. Believe me, you just haven't grasped that true, happy love should be peaceful and serene. If the dramatic plots of romantic dramas were to actually happen to you, the ending would most likely be you "getting what you wanted"—being single. Who would be there to nag you if they were truly cheating?
2. "Love me, but also love my capriciousness" - Princess syndrome
She deliberately changes her plans at the last minute for dates, and he has to accept it gladly; if she can't open a can of midnight snack at 2 a.m., he has to rush over from afar; when she takes him to a friend's party, she "orders" him to do all sorts of strange things in front of others; she dumps all the food she can't finish into his bowl, forcing him to eat until he's stuffed; but when she has a good appetite and wants to eat breakfast eight blocks away, he has to get up two hours early to find that unknown shop, bring back a hot breakfast, and preferably call her "little glutton" with a reproachful yet affectionate tone... Such women can always come up with endless ways to torment their boyfriends. They often have the obsessive mentality that "the other person is willing to be tormented by me, which is a sign of love," and want to prove their sense of security in being loved through this method.
The right solution: swallow all your affectation!
Aside from masochists, probably no one in this world enjoys being tortured, right? However, masochism can be cultivated, though the probability is generally low. The fundamental mistake is mistaking torture for fun, failing to understand that the other person's "appreciation" stems from their continued love for you, leading to temporary tolerance—truly only temporary. Furthermore, the negative energy from this torture won't disappear but will accumulate. No matter how "willing" the other person is to accept it, it will eventually erupt uncontrollably.
Understand that the man who loves you isn't a god; he's just a mortal being like you, getting tired, hungry, and annoyed. Men may indeed perform extraordinary feats and make exceptional sacrifices for love, hormones, and passion, but please don't mistake this for your extraordinary charm, nor treat a man's love like a credit card that can never be maxed out. Furthermore, there's something else you may not have realized, and you may not want to accept: sometimes your actions stem from a very childish and selfish desire to show off. Love, besides physical affection, also requires interaction between two people. If you exhaust love through your own capriciousness, then you've truly reached the point where "he doesn't love you anymore."
3. Addiction to "tentative breakups"
Arguments are common in relationships, but these women think the opposite. Their "extremely fragile hearts" can't withstand the slightest neglect or misunderstanding leading to quarrels, yet they treat breaking up or running away from home as commonplace. They escalate every argument in a relationship to the question of "love or not love," making "break up" their catchphrase, and running away from home the most direct and effective "test." They can pack their bags and leave anytime, anywhere, appearing cold and resolute on the surface, but secretly hoping that their partner will desperately chase after them and hold their hand... However, reality often doesn't work out.
The right approach: Don't test love, just say what's on your mind!!!
Will he really chase after you again and again? Faced with your disappointment, resolve, indifference, and tears, can he truly be convinced time and again that "you don't really want to leave"? This relentless testing, if it continues endlessly, will likely drive the man to despair, if not drive him mad. Perhaps she really does want to leave… When he begins to doubt your sincerity, he'll realize that every time he rushes out to stop you, it was just wishful thinking on his part. Then you'll be standing on the street, bag in hand, dejectedly realizing you have no idea where to go. You might even arrive at the ridiculous conclusion, "He doesn't love me after all," instead of trying to reflect on your actions.
When problems arise in a relationship, the best approach is to be direct and honest. Say things like, "Honey, why aren't you talking to me?" or "You come home so late every night, I worry about you." Express your anxieties instead of saying things like, "Fine, you won't talk to me? Then don't talk to me anymore! Let's break up!" or "Where have you been gallivanting since you came home so late? You don't even consider me your wife anymore! Let's get a divorce!" Although it's the same issue, the atmosphere of the two conversations is completely different. The latter will only lead the other person to say, "Fine! Let's break up/get a divorce!" What was meant as a tentative probe will end up leaving you speechless and unable to express your feelings.
4. "All the good men are dead" - a stereotypical misogynistic view.
In the eyes of this type of woman, the men who pursue her are all ordinary people in reality, but she can treat them as brothers and good friends, and comfortably enjoy the care and comfort they bring. If a man's family background or career is inferior to theirs, they should be wary of being taken advantage of; if a man is superior to them, they should, like Jane Eyre, insist on maintaining their self-respect and equality in front of him. Most of them are well-versed in romance novels, and their intellect often allows them to see through a man's "true intentions" in a flash, and sigh in their hearts, "All the good men are dead."
Targeted approach: Use your capital to determine your demands
It's not that all good men are dead; it's that their idealized love is too perfect and ethereal, completely unable to withstand any real-world intrusion. This tendency to magnify and generalize from a single so-called "flaw" is nothing more than a self-righteous obsession with perfect love. She often laments not meeting a good man, but what exactly are the standards for a good man? Even if she were to meet a handsome man by chance, with a gentle appearance, impeccable taste in clothing, boundless compassion, and an unusual profession, he still wouldn't be someone she could easily perceive as intelligent and beautiful, and would instead pursue her passionately…
Where can such love be found? Perhaps it shouldn't even exist in this mundane world. Actually, this way of pursuing love is flawed from the very beginning, stemming from an attitude of superiority. It's not that there aren't good men in the world; it's just that you don't know how to understand, how to give, or even how to take the initiative.
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