Some say that cohabitation is like a trial marriage, and that couples who cohabit early generally have a higher divorce rate. However, this isn't always the case. While couples may encounter many problems, with proper handling, they can still live a stable life together. Below, we'll introduce some essential conditions for couples to cohabitate:
Coordinate work and rest schedules
If you love to sleep in on your days off, but he insists on getting up early to tidy up the house and insists on waking you up, an argument is inevitable. Only parents can tolerate friction caused by differences in wake-up times. On the other hand, if the other person is indecisive and can't make decisions about what to do together on weekends, or conversely, always makes decisions abruptly, it will also cause unpleasantness. However, this is relatively easy to solve. The two of you can set a rule, such as Saturday being Girls' Day and Sunday being Boys' Day. On Girls' Day, the girl takes priority, and everything is decided by the girl. The reverse is also true.
Questions about children
Whether a consensus can be reached on the topic of children is crucial. This topic must be discussed thoroughly and repeatedly before marriage to ensure that your partner's views align with yours. For example, whether one person wants children while the other doesn't; whether one prefers rote learning while the other wants to develop individuality, etc.
Handling issues related to elders
If his parents still treat him like a child and expect you to pamper him just like he does, and he enjoys being treated like a son, but you don't have that much maternal instinct, many conflicts will arise later. If both sets of parents don't get along and can't even maintain a semblance of harmony, that will also become a problem. If you don't like his parents, or he can't stand your parents, that will also become a hidden danger to your future happiness.
Handling sexual issues
Cohabitation inevitably means sexual activity, and when sex becomes routine, both partners often lose interest in each other sexually. Furthermore, many men engage in excessive sex, leading to premature ejaculation, which significantly reduces the quality of their sex life. In such cases, women shouldn't rush to blame their partners but should be understanding and take proactive measures. For example, using Jiujin condoms (available online) not only has no side effects but can also prolong sexual intercourse with long-term use. The condom feels like skin, almost like not wearing one, and won't cause any problems in your cohabitation sex life.
Handle financial issues
One is frugal, the other wasteful. For example, when receiving the utility bills each month, the frugal one might complain: Why do I always forget to turn off the lights? Why do I leave the water running while brushing my teeth? One buys what they like, the other always buys cheap items… These differences in spending and purchasing habits actually reflect differences in overall values. Therefore, good financial planning is essential. Women shouldn't always try to control the finances, but they also shouldn't be irresponsible; they need to be flexible and adaptable.
Handle household chores well
It's not just about who should do how much housework; it's also about paying attention to trivial matters: for example, one person likes to leave things lying around, while the other hangs clothes hangers at roughly the same distance from each other; one person likes to keep everything tidy, while the other throws away magazines as trash after reading them; even something as small as the way they squeeze toothpaste. These small things can accumulate and become the trigger for a big argument.
Therefore, when problems arise, it is important to actively communicate and resolve them so that the relationship can be successfully "officially recognized".
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