Dating requires skill, and scientific dating techniques can make a relationship sweeter and longer-lasting! An American psychologist once conducted a study on previous scientific research on dating and summarized some dating techniques that can help people date more scientifically and sustainably. So what dating techniques can make your relationship sweeter and sweeter?
Dating Tip 1: Develop Common Ground
After analyzing research by behavioral economist Dan Allelli of Duke University and MIT, Epstein concluded that while people with vastly different backgrounds may be attracted to each other, they are more likely to become romantic partners with those similar to themselves—whether in terms of intelligence, background, or personal charm. Some studies have even found that sometimes simply mimicking someone can enhance feelings for each other. Epstein's method involves two people standing or sitting close together, freely moving their hands and feet while simultaneously mimicking each other's movements. The goal is for both to feel free to move, yet their actions should be coordinated.
Dating Tip 2: Cultivate a Sense of Humor
Epstein cited a 1986 study by marriage counselors Janet Lauer and Robert Lauer, which suggested that in lasting and happy romantic relationships, couples frequently make each other laugh. Other studies have shown that women are more likely to be attracted to men who can make them laugh.
Dating Tip 3: Maintain a sense of novelty
Epstein said that research by Greg Strong, a psychologist at Florida State University, found that engaging in activities together that people have never done before can help strengthen relationships.
Dating Tip 4: Be a forgiving and kind person
Numerous studies have demonstrated that people are drawn to kind and understanding individuals. If someone makes a conscious effort to change their behavior to accommodate one's needs, such as quitting smoking or drinking, people quickly develop a liking for them. Mutual tolerance between couples is also crucial for strengthening their relationship.
Dating Tip 5: Relax your psychological defenses
Constant vigilance often keeps people at arm's length. Relaxing one's guard at the right time and with the right person can greatly help cultivate a relationship. However, Epstein points out that trying to numb the nerves with alcohol to achieve this effect will only make one blind and weak. His suggested exercise is for two people to gently embrace, try to feel each other's breathing, and gradually synchronize their own. He says that after a few minutes, the two will feel as one.
Dating Tip 6: Physical Contact
Simple touches can create a warm, comforting feeling; a gentle pat on the back has a magical effect, even when close enough to be not in direct contact. Research by Susan Speyer, a social psychologist at the University of Illinois, shows that sexual activity can also foster emotional intimacy, especially for women. However, Epstein warns that people easily mistake physical attraction for love, and this attraction can blind them to their partner's inner character.
