Just as the two are deeply in love and enjoying each other's intimacy, the man suddenly goes limp, like a flat tire. In married life, this disappointing situation, if not handled properly, can damage the man's self-esteem and the relationship. In fact, when a man experiences erectile dysfunction, both partners must take proactive measures, especially the woman, who can do the following eight things for her partner.
1. Understand the principles of male erection.
When a man is sexually aroused, his brain sends signals to the nerves in the penis to relax blood vessels, allowing blood to flow in. Once the penis is full of blood, high pressure closes the outlet channels, keeping the blood within the penis to help maintain an erection. If any part of this process malfunctions, the man will experience erectile dysfunction.
2. Do not blame yourself.
When men experience erectile dysfunction, many women feel worried and guilty, thinking that they are not attractive and that men are not interested in them.
3. Show appropriate goodwill.
While a woman's attractiveness doesn't affect a man's erection, sarcastic remarks, ridicule, annoyance, or blame directed at a man's perceived "impotence" can add pressure and exacerbate the problem. Therefore, when a man experiences this issue, a woman should avoid adding insult to injury. Instead, she should empathize with his feelings, show appropriate understanding and concern, remain calm, and avoid nagging.
4. Understand the possible causes.
There are many causes of erectile dysfunction, including stress, pressure, depression, alcoholism, smoking, drug use or certain medications, low testosterone levels, and obesity. In addition, some common diseases, such as diabetes, heart disease, and multiple sclerosis, can also cause erectile dysfunction.
5. Try different things during sex.
If a man goes soft during sex, you can pause intercourse and instead engage in other sexual activities that both of you enjoy, such as kissing, helping him masturbate, or using sex toys. In short, you can do anything that helps the man experience sexual pleasure and relieves his stress.
6. Talk frankly.
Discussing this topic "at the time of the incident" is inappropriate, but when the man feels relaxed and safe, you can share your feelings with him. You should also encourage him to share his feelings. If both partners can be open and honest about this topic and can understand and support each other, it will further bring them closer.
7. Go see a doctor together.
If a male partner frequently experiences erectile dysfunction, he should see a doctor promptly to determine the underlying cause. In this case, the wife should accompany her husband. Furthermore, men should avoid self-medicating with drugs like Viagra; the cause should be identified first before any treatment is administered.
8. Eliminate erroneous sexual beliefs.
The penis is not a "tool" and cannot "get hard whenever it wants," and sex is not simply about penile penetration. Couples should abandon erroneous notions about sex, re-evaluate its meaning, and find other ways to please each other. Hugging, massage, and sweet talk are all ways to express intimacy; couples should learn to expand the meaning of sexual intimacy and enjoy it.
