Recently, a goddess-level figure in the entertainment industry has become a trending topic due to her childbearing issues: Chinese celebrity Gao Yuanyuan has not had children since marrying Zhao Youting, which has sparked controversy among the public. In an interview, when asked why she hasn't had children, Gao Yuanyuan innocently replied, "It feels like this has become my fault, or something I didn't do right." The goddess's implication is that "not having children is not my fault."
I don't know when it started, but more and more women around me don't want to have children anymore. Especially young women who have recently gotten married, they have a strong aversion to the act of "having children".
Many people say that women should have children, otherwise their lives are incomplete; others say, have children, otherwise no one will take care of you when you get old... Despite how valuable people portray "having children" as something, some women are not moved at all, and their desire not to have children is growing stronger day by day.
Why are more and more women reluctant to have children?
1. Because of fear of pain
Women who have given birth know that a child's birth is a life-or-death ordeal for the mother. The pain that childbirth brings to a woman's body is something those who haven't experienced it can never truly understand. A pregnant woman lies on a cold operating table, undergoing surgery, vaginal delivery, cesarean section, postpartum hemorrhage, fainting… Every time I watch a movie, the screams of pain on a woman's face send a shiver down the spines of countless women. Fear of pain and death makes many women hesitate to have children.
2. Because I'm afraid of becoming ugly.
Before having children, how many women were young and beautiful with pretty faces and slim figures? However, after having children, their figures change, wrinkles appear, they become unkempt, their eyes are dull, and their hair is tangled... Looking at themselves in the mirror, they feel extremely disgusted.
Furthermore, before having children, a woman's shopping cart is always filled with bags, shoes, cosmetics, and clothes, dressing herself up like a princess every day, making her lovable. However, after having children, the items in the shopping cart are all toys, diapers, children's clothing... Childbirth transforms a woman from a pampered little princess into a battle-hardened female warrior in an instant.
3. Because childbirth is very painful
After having children, women become like machines that never stop running: taking care of children and doing housework during the day, and unable to sleep for a moment at night because the child is crying... In life, they are not only wives, mothers, and daughters-in-law, but also cooks, drivers, nannies, and childcare workers. The key is that they also have to earn money, keeping them busy every day...
Even so, she still had to endure her husband's accusations and her mother-in-law's disdain, and received no pity from her relatives. Like a servant, she could only secretly release her inner bitterness in the form of tears at night...
In conclusion, there are many reasons why women don't have children. For the sake of children, women sacrifice a great deal, such as time, hobbies, space, freedom, appearance, energy, dreams, and so on. Before having children, they may be carefree and happy every day, but after having children, the responsibilities on their shoulders can be overwhelming.
So men, cherish the girl beside you who can bear your baby. Understand that women have already exerted all their strength to maintain their marriage, family, and children. If men act as if it's none of their business, it's the biggest irony in marriage!
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