Many people are familiar with the movie "Hope" (also known as "So-won").
This movie has a high rating, but many people are afraid to watch it.
The film tells the story of a little girl who is brutally sexually assaulted by a drunk man on her way to school, resulting in lifelong disability.
According to South Korean television reports, the real-life criminal Cho Doo-soon, who is based on a character in the story, will be released from prison in 2020.
The news caused a huge uproar, with 600,000 South Koreans petitioning the Blue House, demanding that the release be prohibited.
You should know that this is a perverted monster who tortured a little girl to the point of fracturing her pelvis, damaging 80% of her anus and reproductive organs, requiring her to use an artificial anus and carry a urinary bag for the rest of her life!
What's even more frightening is that, in the 12 years since he was imprisoned, Cho Doo-soon has shown no remorse whatsoever.
According to the latest psychological test results, the likelihood of him re-offending after his release from prison is "extremely high".
However, under current South Korean law, it is impossible to extend his sentence.
This incident has also sparked heated discussions in the country.
Beyond doubts about the sentencing standards for criminals, and concerns about the physical and mental health and personal safety of the girls who were victimized, there is also deep reflection on the long-neglected social phenomenon of "pedophilia and sexual assault."
The devil may be right beside you.
When it comes to sexual assault, many people first think of adult women, but often overlook the special group of children who are sexually assaulted.
They have a common name – “pedophiles”.
The American Psychiatric Association classifies it as an abnormal sexual behavior in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM).
"Pedophiles" are sexually attracted to children and prefer to have sex with children under the age of 13 rather than adults.
Both boys and girls are vulnerable to sexual assault.
Many Chinese parents believe that "pedophilia" is far removed from their own children.
In reality, the number of pedophiles is far greater than we imagine, and the resulting sexual assault incidents are endless.
According to data from the Supreme People's Court:
Between 2013 and 2016, courts across the country handled 10,782 cases of child sexual abuse, meaning that at least seven children were harmed every day on average.
Lele, a primary school student in Henan, was found by her mother to have a severely protruding abdomen. When she was taken to the hospital for examination, she was told that she was five months pregnant.
After being pressed for details, Lele stammered out the truth.
It turns out that as early as fourth grade, her teacher, Liu, sexually assaulted her for the first time when she was only nine years old.
Liu later threatened her, saying that if she told anyone or said a single word, he would kill her whole family.
Because Liu was in charge of managing the school's academic atmosphere and discipline, the students were all afraid of him, and Lele was no exception.
For the next two years, Liu repeatedly forced Lele to have sex with him on campus, and Lele remained silent throughout.
Upon learning this news, the school principal was shocked and said he was completely unaware of it.
Liu had been in school for many years, and neither his parents nor his child had reported any similar incidents.
The principal said, "Mr. Liu doesn't seem to be acting strangely at all, and his wife often comes to the school."
A seemingly normal teacher turns out to be a pedophile; this is practically a real-life version of "Silenced."
Pedophiles specifically target acquaintances.
In our education of children, we often only mention that they should be wary of strangers.
However, investigations show that in 70% of child sexual abuse cases, the perpetrators are acquaintances!
They are always around the children, quietly extending their evil clutches.
In 2015, a couple from Dazhou, Sichuan, returned home from working away from home and found that their 6-year-old daughter, Huanhuan, was in extremely poor mental condition and didn't like to talk.
At first, the couple thought it was normal for their child to be estranged from his parents after not seeing them for so long.
But they gradually discovered that the child ate very little each day, and could not even drink water, often clutching his abdomen in unbearable pain.
They were taken to the hospital for a checkup, and the results shocked them.
Huanhuan was sexually assaulted, and the assault lasted for at least a year!
Police investigation confirmed that it was Huanhuan's uncle who did it.
The couple was instantly devastated; they never imagined that such a beastly act could come from their own family.
Coincidentally, in Guangzhou in 2014, a shocking case of child sexual abuse also broke out.
Nine-year-old Xiaoqi was sexually assaulted for three years and developed a serious gynecological disease, but her parents were completely unaware of it.
It wasn't until later that they discovered their daughter's underwear was frequently stained.
After further questioning, it was discovered that every weekend, the 50-year-old neighbor would lure Xiaoqi over.
They looked at the computer together, or he sexually assaulted her...
These heartbreaking cases have overturned our understanding of "acquaintances".
"Demons" are often people you never expect, reaching out their evil hands to children.
They appear in the child's world, addressing him as family and friends, but behind the scenes, they cast a lifelong shadow on the child's life.
The lack of sex education is a lesson that parents have skipped.
Ultimately, the prevalence of pedophilia is related to the long-term lack of sex education in my country, and even its stigmatization.
Parents are ashamed to talk about sex, believing that their children are still minors and should not be exposed to such content.
Some people even felt that the sex education textbooks for children were too explicit and angrily resisted them.
In February 2017, a mother of a primary school student complained on Weibo that the "Primary School Students' Sexual Health Education Reader" distributed by the school was "too explicit and unreadable," and posted pictures containing "introductions related to male and female reproductive organs." The topic quickly went viral online.
An excellent sex education textbook for children has been met with resistance from many parents. Scientific terms like penis, vagina, and sperm have become filthy in their mouths.
Later, the publisher responded that as a textbook, it had a strict review process and was in line with the original intention of textbook compilation, and explained in detail the significance of these contents. Unfortunately, the textbook was still recalled by the school.
In response, some netizens couldn't help but ask: How come such a good sex education material for children fills your mind with dirty thoughts?
Generation after generation of Chinese parents have inherited a sense of shame about sex from ancient times to the present day.
In a survey conducted by Sina Weibo, about 70% of the nearly 20,000 respondents answered "We were picked up from a river or a garbage dump" when asked, "How did your parents tell you where you came from when you were a child?"
Less than 16% of people were told they "came from their mother's womb".
If you search for "sex education" on Zhihu, you'll find many anonymous users sharing their stories from puberty: boys didn't know how to prevent girls from getting pregnant; girls, because their mothers avoided the topic, didn't learn until college that kissing doesn't lead to pregnancy...
Sexual knowledge used to be filled with a sense of "curiosity" for us. We tried to unveil the veil covering sexual knowledge through all sorts of methods, whether right or wrong.
Mary Sue novels, erotic literature, adult films...
We know this is wrong, but no one tells us what proper sex education should be like.
This netizen's comment may well be a true reflection of our situation:
Indeed, the taboo attitude of Chinese parents towards sex has led to pornography becoming the primary source of sex education for most teenagers.
Lin Yi-han's "Fang Si-qi's First Love Paradise" tells the story of Fang Si-qi being sexually assaulted by her Chinese teacher from a young age. The author adapted the story based on her own personal experience...
As Lin Yi-han wrote through Fang Si-qi's words, "In this story, the parents will always be absent; they skipped class, yet they think school hasn't started yet."
People separate sex into an activity that belongs only to adults, failing to understand that "sex" is actually innate and accompanies a child throughout their life.
Sex education is related to children's health and safety.
Some parents believe that talking about sex is impure and think that good children don't talk about sex.
They were simply mistaking ignorance for purity, failing to realize that understanding is the best protection.
It's important to understand that sex education involves multiple dimensions, including love, life, health, responsibility, respect, and safety. Only through a comprehensive understanding of sex can children develop correct sexual awareness and aesthetic appreciation.
If children don't understand sex and don't know anything about sex, how can they possibly be able to protect themselves when faced with abuse?
Sex education must start from childhood.
Naturally Discussing Sex
Children inevitably encounter sex-related questions as they grow up, such as "Where did I come from?", "Why do girls have periods?", "Why do I have a penis?", and so on.
Many parents are embarrassed when asked this question, and some will try to brush it off by saying, "You'll understand when you grow up."
In the Indian drama "Father and Son's Awkward Sex Education Conversation," the father's approach to sex education is something we can learn from.
He used an easy-to-understand and entertaining approach to explain to his son what masturbation, pregnancy, menstruation, condoms, and other taboo topics are.
Talking to children about sex and helping them understand their own bodies is a very natural thing.
Don't be too mysterious, don't be too serious, answer questions directly in language he can understand, and don't change the subject or be vague.
Clear boundaries
After children have a correct and open understanding of their bodies, they should also be taught the importance of privacy and self-protection.
There's a widely circulated saying online: "You think sex education is too early, but pedophiles won't think your child is too young."
Children should be taught from a young age which body parts are private and should not be shown to others, let alone touched by others, and should not touch other people's bodies without permission.
Then, instill correct sexual values in children, enabling them to recognize and learn about sex in a positive mindset, respect others, and protect themselves.
Take care to protect
Some parents like to post pictures of their children on social media to share their joys of raising children. Some even like to dress their children in open-crotch pants, thinking that it is comfortable, breathable, and convenient for going to the toilet.
In reality, this provides a convenient door for pedophiles.
Because you can't be sure if any of the people looking at your child's photos or your child's bottom are pedophiles.
By openly exposing children's private parts to the public, these images could potentially be posted on child pornography websites.
Even worse, malicious individuals might follow the trail to find your child and sexually assault or even abduct them.
Therefore, posting photos of children in the sun and having them wear open-crotch pants are not only issues of hygiene and respect, but also directly involve children's personal safety.
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