A significant number of men enjoy deceiving, concealing, and lying to their partners. They appear outwardly very loyal to their spouses, but secretly seek opportunities to cheat. When they return home to their partners, they will use excuses such as being too tired, not feeling well, or physically unwell to refuse their partners' intimate advances.
They conspire with their cronies to deceive their wives, using excuses like parties, meetings, and overtime work to find opportunities for extramarital sex. Women do the same.
They would act very intimately with their wives in public places such as holidays, in order to create the illusion of a happy married life for their wives and relatives and friends, so as to deceive their lovers, family and children and find more opportunities and conditions for their future extramarital affairs.
Their personalities and emotions are two-sided. In front of their wives and lovers, they are hypocritical gentlemen, responsible good men, good husbands, loyal, friendly and devoted lovers; but behind their wives' and lovers' backs, they will show a completely different face.
So, as their partner, how can you identify the many faces they're trying to portray?
First, distance yourself from your partner, have no sexual interest in them, and minimize intimate contact. Even when you do have sex, you feel powerless.
No matter how well he or she can pretend, a person's energy is limited, and so is their sexual ability. If someone cheats, they will always be unable to meet their partner's needs, and this will manifest in some way.
They will start having different sleep schedules than their partners. If their partners hint that they want to rest earlier, they will pretend not to notice or make excuses about having work or other things to do, staying up late to evade their marital obligations.
Some people, even if they reluctantly comply, will still appear incapable and rush through the task.
Second, using work, gatherings, or other excuses to create the illusion of being busy, thereby creating an opportunity to run away from home and cheat on someone else.
Whether it's a man or a woman, once their heart is wandering elsewhere, they will find all sorts of excuses and opportunities to prolong their time away from home.
They would use excuses such as working overtime, socializing, or gatherings with classmates or friends to have extramarital affairs for extended periods.
If your partner is consistently extremely busy and doesn't show affection to you at home, you should be wary of whether he or she is having an affair.
Third, they don't usually care about, show consideration for, or pay attention to their partner, and rarely have frequent intimate contact with their loved one.
However, if their partner goes out alone, they will be very supportive and enthusiastic, and will plan and pick them up and drop them off with great interest. In fact, the reason they do this is just so that they can have more freedom and opportunities to have extramarital affairs after their partner leaves.
Fourth, they are good at putting on a show of affection and like to flaunt their love in public.
Especially in front of relatives and friends, you should put on the illusion that you two are incredibly loving. But in private, you two live separate lives, and he rarely treats you with such intimacy.
Fifth, expressing love through words without actions.
If your lover is having an affair and you fall ill or encounter other troubles, they will only offer superficial verbal concern. If you say, "It's alright, go ahead and do what you need to do," they will immediately leave. They will never truly stay by your side, offering you meticulous care and concern.
They might say "I love you" or "I miss you" over the phone or in a text message, but when you're actually in physical contact, they'll keep their distance. If you try to be close to them, they'll resent you and think you're too clingy.
VI. Sudden and significant changes in lifestyle habits and hobbies.
If your partner suddenly changes their clothing style, lifestyle habits, daily routine, etc., then you should be careful. What prompted them to change? Is it you or someone else?
7. Trust your intuition.
Because human language and actions are too deceptive and falsifiable, while human intuition is something that has evolved over thousands of years in dangerous environments since the birth of humankind. It can keenly sense and identify danger in the surroundings, and for no reason at all, you can sense the emotional changes between you.
When you feel that he really doesn't love you anymore and is distancing himself from you, believe that this is a fact, not an illusion.
However, there are now many different ways to maintain a marriage, just like there are many different social media platforms. Regardless of the specific model, as long as the couple is willing to accept it and can maintain it, then it's a good marriage. Because existence itself has its reasons; don't ask why.
