1. Creating a harmonious family atmosphere against one's will.
Knowing her husband is having an affair, yet having to pretend to be a harmonious couple, secretly tolerating the love triangle, accepting her husband's physical and emotional infidelity, and feigning happiness despite sleeping in the same bed but dreaming different dreams—this is incredibly difficult. Over time, not only does it cause pain and repression, but it can also lead to psychological distortion and abnormality. Facing a husband's betrayal, a woman suffers immensely within the confines of marriage, finding it more difficult to remain single. Her husband ignores her existence, and other men, because she is married, have no interest in her. Therefore, this type of marriage can lead to depression in women.
2. Use self-deception to convince yourself.
She doesn't want other women to share her husband, but she's misled by his lies, clinging to the illusion that his infidelity is just a momentary lapse of judgment, a result of another woman's seduction. She believes it will all end eventually. But if her husband truly loved her, would he do this? Would he stop once he's tasted the sweetness of it? Infidelity can be addictive.
3. To endure humiliation and live a life of ignominy for the sake of one's child.
Many women repeatedly criticize their husbands' infidelity, yet lack the courage to leave. They often use the excuse of their children being too young or the fear of hurting their feelings to endure in silence, just to preserve a marriage in name only. In reality, such a family environment is more detrimental to a child's development. Furthermore, children cannot replace your true relationship with your husband. Don't shift the responsibility for your relationship onto your children. When your children grow up, if you complain, "Look, it's all because you were too young that your father and I haven't divorced yet," and your child retorts, "I'm all grown up now, you can divorce if you want," how will you respond? Will you accuse them of being ungrateful? Children are not a bargaining chip in your marriage.
4. They can't let go of their attachment to their partner, yet they worry about contracting sexually transmitted diseases.
To maintain a balance in their relationships, playboys often take on multiple roles, inevitably leading to venereal diseases. Unfaithful husbands, if they don't change their ways, risk contracting STDs themselves. If you were a woman who valued purity and integrity, would you accept this reality?
5. Retaliating against her husband's extramarital affair.
Okay, so you're cheating? I'll follow your example and have an affair. To retaliate against my husband's infidelity, I'll spitefully experience multiple sexual encounters. I'll take a tit-for-tat approach, an eye for an eye. You're loyal to me, I'll be loyal to you; you betray me, and I won't let it go unpunished. Many retaliatory affairs are the most foolish things women do. You think you can save your husband, provoke his jealousy, bring him back to you, or get justice, even things out, and get revenge on him, but actually you're just giving him an excuse to escape. Men consider it a disgrace to stay with an unfaithful woman; they'd rather leave. Wearing a green hat isn't something to be taken lightly.
6. Engaging in open and covert struggles with a third party.
Unwilling to let her husband go to another woman, she decided to teach the mistress a lesson: I am the original wife, and I will not divorce her. "You little vixen, you want to steal my husband? I will not let you succeed!" This open and covert challenge spurred the mistress to a desperate fight: "You won't leave me, I won't let you have your way," vowing to take the man back.
7. Accept the fact that the child was born out of wedlock.
When a woman faces her husband's infidelity, delaying the issue can have serious consequences. One day, he might bring home a child born out of wedlock, a part of her husband's bloodline and indirectly part of their shared property. This will threaten her for life. "When a husband has a child outside the marriage, this fact will forever remind his wife that he is a man who has cheated. This child will become a living mark of another part of his life—a part that the wife is unwilling to acknowledge. This 'fruit of love' makes it impossible for the wife to deny the existence of another woman. A mistress with an illegitimate child can be a bottomless pit that devours all of a man's time and money."
You'll have to tolerate your husband wasting his money and time on that woman, money you've earned through hard work. You'll have to endure the woman's presence on your husband; can you really ignore it all? A woman's intuition is often accurate, but some things you can't truly shut your eyes to. You might try to ignore it, but the shadow will always remain.
