Men and women have very different views on narcissistic women.
From a man's perspective: Overly narcissistic women are always arrogant and outwardly strong but inwardly weak. They have no bottom line when it comes to hurting others, but they themselves have a fragile heart that breaks easily. They are both sensitive and sharp-tongued, like a female psychopath, and are really difficult to please.
Women's perspective: Only narcissistic women truly cherish themselves; the stronger they are, the less likely they are to be hurt. The "queen woman" is the epitome of female narcissism. They're so cool! They lead men by the nose in love, and they're unstoppable in the workplace. Because of their narcissism, they become winners in life.
1. In love: Accustomed to waiting for good men to come to you – ending up single.
Women who elevate themselves to a pedestal are, frankly, excessively narcissistic. In the realm of romance, they habitually use an air of "noble, aloof beauty" to look down on men, enjoying the sense of superiority they feel (as if they were on cloud nine), and boasting about being "passively pursued"; while simultaneously mocking other women who are busy pursuing love, believing that the pursuit of true love is always a man's obligation.
An "expert's" opinion: People often use the phrase "high standards" to criticize single women, and there's actually some scientific truth to it—almost every woman who is arrogant and overconfident ends up single. Firstly, they set their prices too high, leaving most men neither interested nor daring to pursue them; secondly, even when they encounter a truly attractive man, they can't bring themselves to actively pursue true love, and can only watch helplessly as these men are captured by women willing to humble themselves. Then, with a cold snort, their youthful years, spent in pretentious self-righteousness, flutter away like birds, never to return. Waiting will never bring the love they desire.
2. Workplace: Habitually challenging the boss – no pay increase
What is "narcissism"? The answer is unlimited self-confidence. Therefore, overly narcissistic women in the workplace always regard "challenging the boss" as a virtue. No matter how big or small the matter, they resolutely defend their own opinions and are proud of it as: having personality; regardless of the occasion, they will pour cold water on the boss and dismantle the steps the boss has painstakingly built, and they enjoy doing so.
According to "experts": Most bosses do like employees who dare to express dissenting opinions, but all bosses hate subordinates who are arrogant and constantly undermine them. A more tolerant boss might pat you on the shoulder and say, "Yes, the company needs employees like you to progress." But you won't get a raise, a promotion, or a year-end bonus. At the end of the year, you'll definitely be the one who worked for nothing.
3. Social Media: 20 years of relentless nitpicking – no friends.
"A true friend is someone who dares to point out your flaws." Narcissistic women often treat this wise saying as the ultimate truth of life, and then elevate it to an even higher level. They criticize their female companions for being ugly, dressing ugly, and choosing ugly men; they berate their male friends for being unambitious, lacking ambition, and being short, poor, and pathetic. They habitually chuckle and have been focusing on nitpicking for 20 years.
The "expert" says: Just like "not everyone who says 'hehehe' is a goddess," not all wise sayings apply to real life. This "crazy woman," using distorted interpretations of proverbs as a pretext to express her friendliness, cannot hide her self-righteous and know-it-all nature. Who can tolerate a venomous, troll-like "killer" for long? Therefore, "crazy woman," you are destined to be alone and friendless for life.
Fun Survey
1. Do you have a narcissistic tendency?
Yes, I am very narcissistic.
No, I'm always humble.
It's alright, neutral attitude.
2. Do you think it's a good thing or a bad thing for women to be narcissistic?
That's a good thing; women should unconditionally appreciate themselves.
It's a bad thing; being too narcissistic makes you annoying.
Specific analysis for specific individuals
3. Do you agree with women taking the initiative to pursue men?
Agreed, if you find true love, be brave and go for it.
I disagree; it's rare for a woman to have a good outcome when pursuing a man.
It doesn't matter, each situation needs to be analyzed individually.
4. Do you agree with challenging your boss in the workplace?
Agreed, being unconventional and different will gain favor.
I disagree; we should consider our boss's feelings.
5. Should all of a friend's shortcomings be pointed out directly?
Yes, friends should be honest with each other.
No, minor flaws should be ignored.
Hilarious Commentary
Netizen Xiaochazi89: Don't use "destined to be apart" as an excuse for cowardice. Whatever you want, you have to work for it yourself, and love is no exception. There are far too many loves that pass you by in this world. Don't think that just waiting will solve everything. No one is destined to be yours; don't wait until it's too late to regret not taking the initiative.
Netizen "Sleepy Pig": It's a habitual waste of time to challenge that fragile self-esteem. Just like you're not happy when everyone compliments your beauty, you might even retort angrily, "Thanks, anyone with eyes can see that!" without realizing how annoying you are!
Netizen Meisenmiao: I know I'm not good. Words like maturity, rationality, tolerance, and kindness have nothing to do with me. I'm just immature, stubborn, nitpicky towards people I like, and vindictive towards people I dislike. I don't like myself either, but I've lived like this for 20 years. So, if you don't like me, it has nothing to do with me. If you can stand it, great; if you can't, get lost.
"Experts" summarize
Women must understand the difference between narcissism, self-confidence, and self-love. Everything in excess is harmful. Blindly trusting and cherishing oneself, and building self-esteem on belittling others, is a disease. Those who ignore their surroundings and live only in their own world will always be isolated, becoming losers in love, career, and social situations. Straighten your head, woman; the price of excessive narcissism will be a life of repeated setbacks.
Narcissism is a word we often use, and many people now appreciate themselves, which is actually a symbol of self-confidence. However, excessive narcissism is a psychological disorder that can be harmful to both oneself and others. People who are excessively narcissistic typically exhibit eight psychological characteristics, which we will examine below.
1. Only yourself is worthy of love.
Loving yourself is not wrong, but if it goes too far, it becomes narcissism. A woman who loves herself excessively has a mind like a mirror reflecting her own self-admiration. At all times, her self-awareness is focused on herself, and her interactions with the outside world are merely a way to validate her own attractiveness. She is overly concerned with her personality, physical features, and appearance, always finding reasons to prove her excellence, even if it's self-deception.
2. Conquering a man is merely a way to prove yourself.
A narcissistic woman, driven by vanity, may flit among men and engage in ambiguous relationships with multiple men, not necessarily because she is inherently promiscuous or a "loose woman." The deeper reason she does this is that she sees it as a way to validate her self-attractiveness. Rather than enjoying the pleasure itself, she appreciates the self-affirmation she exudes in the process.
3. Demands absolute loyalty from her boyfriend.
Narcissistic women are actually quite psychologically fragile, so they constantly need to reaffirm their self-appeal to bolster their confidence. If they have a boyfriend, he absolutely cannot express affection for other women; he must be absolutely loyal, both outwardly and inwardly. Otherwise, the narcissistic woman will become neurotic, and her confidence will crumble. Therefore, being the boyfriend of a narcissistic woman is not an easy task; sometimes, neither side is ideal. It requires absolute tolerance and self-discipline.
4. Believing that one's charm is absolutely powerful.
A narcissistic woman magnifies her strengths and distorts her weaknesses, even turning them into virtues from a different angle. She shamelessly imbues her flaws with a certain allure and flaunts them in public. Therefore, narcissistic women possess exceptional sensitivity and self-discipline in their voice, tone, gait, and body language. They are constantly observing their own inner world, one eye on the outside world, the other introspective. They seize every opportunity to display their charm, even if it appears utterly unappealing to outsiders.
5. When self-confidence is damaged, one is prone to taking out one's anger on others.
A blow to self-confidence is perhaps the hardest thing for a narcissistic woman to accept. The very things they painstakingly defend, once genuinely damaged, can cause them despair, neurosis, and even hysteria. At this point, they are most likely to vent their frustrations and inexplicable anger on their family and friends, appearing irrational.
6. Deep within our consciousness lies a mirror of self-admiration.
Narcissistic women always have a mirror deep in their minds, so they can admire themselves at any time. At the same time, they can use this mirror to look at other women, so they can make comparisons, find something to be confident about, or find their uniqueness.
7. Believing that others speak ill of you out of jealousy
Narcissistic women are always in love with themselves, adept at living in their own psychological superiority, indulging in self-admiration and self-forgiveness. When others speak ill of them, narcissistic women will generally show disdain, believing that these people are jealous of them, and will hold a grudge.
8. One outward manifestation of selfishness is liking to accuse others of being selfish.
A narcissistic woman, because she is inherently overly self-loving, exhibits considerable selfishness in relationships. However, the most prominent manifestation of her selfishness is accusing others of being selfish. In her logic, the more you care about her, the stronger her charm becomes. Therefore, you must be willing to pay any price, even your life, to give her confirmation of her own allure. Otherwise, she will cruelly retaliate by tormenting you.
