Secret #1: Real men are afraid of rejection.
Men fear rejection, especially rejection from the woman they are closest to; this has become a common trait among men. Men crave affirmation and praise; their self-esteem is as fragile as an eggshell. Therefore, men are reluctant to confide in their partners, especially when they feel their woman is constantly criticizing them. They worry that speaking out will lead to ridicule, which would be incredibly humiliating. Loving a man means accepting him, not trying to mold him. If you negate him before he even opens his mouth, he will immediately fall silent.
Tip 2: State your position clearly.
As mentioned earlier, it's very rare for a man to confide in you. Therefore, when they share their innermost thoughts with you amidst their worries and anxieties, don't just nod and agree, nor should you simply say their view on the matter is wrong. Because at this moment, men need the joy of sharing. They are actually very anxious when they confide in you; they worry that you might leave them because of it.
At this point, you need to immediately make your stance clear, letting him know that you are the same as him, that these experiences are not unique to him, and that you create harmony, making him feel that you both occupy the same planet and live in a similar world. Your honesty and positive feedback are crucial. If you do this, he will be excited and talkative because of the resonance.
Secret #3: Let go when it's time.
Men rarely bring up the past because they are terrified that women will dwell on it. Their fears are not unfounded; many women like to play the victim or "martyr" to keep men hooked, and grumbling about past relationships makes them feel good about themselves. Therefore, when couples or lovers talk, it often devolves into reminiscing about past mistakes, how he hurt you, and what he owes you now. This feeling of guilt makes men hesitant and timid.
A smart woman should learn to let go of the past. It takes two to tango. Even if he made a mistake, you can't say you bear no responsibility. If you have to play the role of a wronged woman and make sacrifices to keep your man in your relationship, it already shows that there is a problem with your relationship.
Tip 4: Develop the courage to listen to the truth
In real life, many women like to control men through their emotions, and in turn, control the relationship between the two. Women often demand specific reactions from men, and if they don't get them, they will cry and feel frustrated. Because of this, many men say they don't dare to express their true feelings about what's happening in their lives to their partners, because they are afraid of disappointing them.
Therefore, women need to cultivate the courage to listen to the truth. Being willing to listen to the truth is actually the beginning of a truly mature relationship between the sexes. This will make men feel that they have a reliable partner who can share hardships with them. Fantasy can make women feel good, but only by accepting more facts can we become stronger. True security does not come from the approval of others but from being honest with ourselves. Being able to listen to the truth allows us to be more honest with our feelings and our lives.
Tip 5: Be true to yourself
A woman who exudes warmth and acceptance can always help a man to naturally and honestly express his feelings and open his heart. When a woman can fully accept herself, she creates a completely relaxed state. This relaxed state naturally forms a unique charm that inspires trust in others and makes them willing to confide in her. Therefore, a woman must be true to herself and have a clear understanding of herself. How can someone who cannot forgive herself possibly forgive others and inspire warmth and kindness in others?
