Xiao Ke and her boyfriend met in high school. They started dating in their second year of high school and began a six-year-long relationship. The year they graduated from university, they decided to get married.
Xiao Ke's parents disagreed. They felt that their family was not well-off, and the boy's family was also poor, so they would have a harder time after marriage . But Xiao Ke thought that it didn't matter if they didn't have money. As long as the two of them had a good relationship, they could earn money slowly.
However, the series of problems brought about by the "naked marriage" (marrying without a dowry) began to shake Xiao Ke's firm belief. First, her husband 's family members fell ill, and at this critical moment, Xiao Ke discovered that she was pregnant .
After the baby is born, expenses will definitely increase, and I am not satisfied with my job. I feel wronged and want to quit every day, but I don't have the courage . I am even afraid that the company will find out that I am pregnant and I will be fired.
Every time Xiao Ke falls asleep, she thinks, " Love makes even water taste sweet " is only suitable for dating. After marriage, is it really true that poverty makes everything miserable for a couple?
Is there any truth to the saying "When poverty knocks at the door, love flies out the window"?
Chinese parents believe in the importance of " marrying someone of equal social standing " when it comes to their children's marriages. Regarding "naked marriage" (marrying without financial support or social status), most parents will try to dissuade them with the saying "poverty makes a couple miserable in every way." Is this saying really true? The stories of two people who have been through it might offer some answers.
"I deeply regret not listening to my parents' advice back then."
Qianqian has only been married for two years, and now things have escalated to the point where divorce is inevitable. Speaking about her marriage, she sighed and said she deeply regretted not listening to her parents' advice and marrying her current husband. She added that if she could do it all over again, she would definitely listen to her parents.
Back then, Qianqian met him at a friend's gathering . His handsome appearance and sweet words made Qianqian fall in love at first sight. Less than half a year into their relationship, he proposed to her .
When Qianqian's parents found out, they immediately disagreed. They felt that the man had no ambition and was not serious about relationships. But Qianqian wouldn't listen. Under her boyfriend's sweet words, she actually stole her household registration book and got married to him.
Who would have thought that, not long after their marriage, the man who used to dote on her would become a completely different person. He would not only be hot and cold towards her, but would also often stay out all night under the pretext of company meetings or entertaining clients . The man who used to send her gifts every few days when they were deeply in love would now forget Qianqian's birthday.
What finally broke Qianqian's heart was that when she had appendicitis and needed surgery, the man on the other end of the phone said he had to accompany a client and was short of money, unable to afford the surgery fee, and asked Qianqian's parents to pay for it first ...
Young girls often think that their parents' saying "poverty-stricken couples face endless sorrows" is just scaremongering, and that "marrying someone of equal social standing" is a denigration of pure love.
Little do people know that a happy marriage requires not only an emotional foundation but also a solid economic foundation . Since these two statements exist, they are reasonable. A marriage lacking money will always encounter the predicament of "when it rains, it pours".
Unless that poor boy from back then is able to take responsibility for his family!
We were indeed poor when we first got together, but things are slowly getting better now.
Xiaomei and Daxiong were also a couple who got married without any dowry. They couldn't even afford to rent a wedding dress, so they bought a pair of wedding rings for about a hundred yuan , got their marriage certificate at the Civil Affairs Bureau, and had a Western meal that they usually couldn't afford. That was their wedding.
Although they were still poor after marriage, their relationship grew stronger. After agreeing to have a baby in two years, Da Xiong silently vowed to himself: In these two years, he must work hard to build a home for Xiao Mei and their child.
On Xiaomei's 26th birthday, Daxiong gave her a diamond ring and a property deed as birthday gifts. Her friends all said that Xiaomei had indeed chosen the right person.
Xiaomei said that she wasn't without worries about the saying "poverty makes life miserable for couples," but she believed that Daxiong wouldn't let her live a life of hardship forever. Now, everything is slowly getting better. It's okay to be poor when you're young, as long as the two of them work together, their little family will become better and better.
Is family happiness determined by economic level?
Undoubtedly, economic foundation influences a family's happiness level . Although money and happiness are not directly equivalent, it is difficult to be happy in married life without money, especially in major events such as buying a house and having children, where the saying "poverty makes a couple miserable in every way" can easily arise.
The strength of a couple's relationship also affects the happiness of their family , especially when they are newly married and their financial situation is not good. It takes a strong emotional bond for the two people to support each other and work together to make their family better off. If one of them wavers, it will be difficult to persevere.
In conclusion, family happiness is influenced by many factors, including the values of the two people, the influence of their families of origin, economic conditions, and emotions . But in essence, it comes down to having "money, leisure, and hope." Only such a marriage can truly be filled with happiness both materially and spiritually.
